- Rick Warren
I just got back from my Grandpa Jimmy's funeral.
It's strange, really. I'm 31-years-old and up until two months ago I still had four living grandparents. In many ways I feel lucky, but, on the other hand, this has been a strange summer.
In mid-June we buried my other grandpa, Grandpa Miranda (who I simply called "grandpa") and now, today, we buried Grandpa Jimmy. We even used the same funeral home for both burials.
As I walked up to the casket today, to say a final goodbye to Grandpa Jimmy's body, I kept having flashbacks to Grandpa Miranda in the casket -- it was surreal.
Seeing Grandma Mae (Grandpa Miranda's widow) greeting Grandma Virginia (Grandpa Jimmy's widow) was also surreal.
Finally, after Grandpa Jimmy's graveside service, Blo and I walked over to Grandpa Miranda's grave, a mere 40 or 50 feet away from where Grandpa Jimmy was buried. Again, it was surreal.
I didn't take any photos today, but I did shoot a few photos at Grandpa Miranda's funeral. It was difficult to shoot anything at that funeral because I was a pallbearer, and, let's face it, you don't see too many guys walking around with professional camera gear at a funeral.
Despite all that, the photos I did get were, to me, some of the most profound pictures I've ever taken. They're not the best compositions and they're not technically perfect, but they communicate -- at least to me -- the gravity of the event.
I've decided to post what I think are the two most important pictures I shot on that day. I debated with myself whether or not sharing these pictures would be too personal. I worried about crossing an invisible line of propriety. In the end I thought, what the heck, I'm a photographer -- it's who I am.
Goodbye, grandpas. See you soon.
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Those photographs express so much love. I know it’s hard to lose those you love in a short time. I lost two uncles and my mom in less then six months.
Praying for you and those who love them both.
May God be with you and your family during this time Bird.
Thanks for the photos. It's reality, bro.
Thanks for posting this, Bird. It is surreal and I will greatly miss both our grandpas. I'm glad they're together now...

I am so sorry for the loss of your grandpas. I think, as a photographer, you have the *responsibility* to document what happens in your life via visual images. It will be an important part of your memories as you move forward through your grief and time of mourning. Your photos express gravity and dignity.
I lost both my grandmas within three weeks of each other. It was December 2005 and writing about them was tremendously helpful. I will never forget how bewildering it was to go from being a woman with living, vital grandmothers to a woman without that loving connection here on earth. I will see them again someday. I have that confidence.
I know you do too. Until then, my prayers and thoughts are with you.