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- C.S. Lewis

Tuesday, September 27, 2005

The Doghouse: For Men Only?

Posted by Jared @ 3:49 am CDT
Filed under: Marriage

Another gem overheard at the Boneheads:

Why is it that the woman always gets to decide who gets to sleep where for stupid and arbitrary reasons? When a man says "I told you not to cook vegetarian dinners. You get to sleep on the couch tonight," that's abuse. When the woman does the same thing because the man didn't want to pay $3000 for a new armchair, that's a part of marriage we're supposed to just accept.

It's a good question, but I can tell you why a man would never kick his wife out of the bed, no matter how angry he is with her. It's because, even if they've had a terrible fight and are mad as heck at each other, the whole time they're laying there, the man is thinking there's still the possibility of sex.

;-)

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Comments on "The Doghouse: For Men Only?":

1. De - 09/27/2005 4:43 am CDT

LOL!

2. Don in TX - 09/27/2005 4:53 am CDT

True, so true...

3. Damon - 09/27/2005 4:58 am CDT

I just snotted myself... :-)

4. Nathan - 09/27/2005 6:02 am CDT

Semi-serious question: me being a young Turk (metaphorically) with a girlfriend but no marriage experience, could you tell me if anyone, anywhere, ever has ever actually had to actually literally sleep on the literal sofa because of an argument with their wife? Christians, I mean? My girlfriend's about, ooh, twenty times more forgiving and reasonable than me, so I just can't see it.

Although I do sometimes dream there are snails in my bed and jump onto the floor screaming incredibly rude words that I don't tend to say when awake, so it might be safer for All Concerned.

5. jez - 09/27/2005 6:13 am CDT

'fraid so. it'll happen to you, too.

6. blestwithsons - 09/27/2005 6:14 am CDT

I've exiled myself to the couch before... Cause I was so mad that I couldn't lay next to that man without thinking of decking him. What gets me is not that you guys can go to bed during an argument and think of sex... it's that you can FALL ASLEEP!

7. Jared - 09/27/2005 6:15 am CDT

Nathan, it's never happened to me personally, but it does happen. "The doghouse" is not a myth. Christian marriages have arguments just like non-Christian ones.

8. Jared - 09/27/2005 6:17 am CDT

it's that you can FALL ASLEEP!

Hey, when you're tired, you're tired. ;-)

9. Damon - 09/27/2005 6:30 am CDT

BWS... "Men are from Mars..." :-)

10. blestwithsons - 09/27/2005 6:42 am CDT

Actually, one of the nice things about getting older and having so many kids is that I just don't have the stamina to fight all night anymore. I'll just look at him and say, "You do realize that a few years ago you would have been in real trouble right? But I'm just too tired to talk you to death." And then we both laugh and go to sleep.

11. Daniel - 09/27/2005 6:48 am CDT

Having just experienced a spat last night before bed (and having to stay up to finish it), I can always see how a man can fall asleep no matter what the argument is.

12. Damon - 09/27/2005 6:50 am CDT

How funny... these days, our evening spats (unless they are really serious stuff that isn't to be trifled with) are usually over in less than 3 minutes because invariably one of us, while looking seriously at the other, will crack a little grin and then we'll both bust out laughing... it's almost a lock.

And I have to apologize for being the king of run-on sentences...and for abusing our friend the ellipse. :-)

13. Quaid - 09/27/2005 9:29 am CDT

Damon . . . don't worry about it. I found your comments . . . insightful and somewhat . . . clever.

See you in . . . oh . . . the next comments thread . . .

14. Damon - 09/27/2005 10:29 am CDT

I'm submitting anything I want to post for you to do it... :-

15. Darren - 09/27/2005 10:32 am CDT

Now having had no major spats in my marriage to date, I can only speak so far. But I think it's absolutely inappropriate for either spouse to boot the other out of bed. Aside from the sex thing, Scripture tells us "Do not let the sun go down on your anger." Timeouts may be necessary, depending on one's personality -- but whenever possible they shouldn't go beyond the day.

If my wife ever made me sleep on the couch, we'd be in the pastor's office or at a marriage counselor the next day.

16. Quaid - 09/27/2005 10:44 am CDT

whoa - damon.

I was totally just kidding. seriously.

Sorry if I came across wrong. Just playing off your ellipses comments.

17. Quaid - 09/27/2005 10:45 am CDT

And, btw, I really did find your comment insightful - wasn't being sarcastic there.

18. Damon - 09/27/2005 1:39 pm CDT

Quaid, (Randy, or Dennis?)

I knew you were kidding...thus my kidding...only it didn't come off as kidding...dang it...was it my choice of smilies? Or did my runon sentences foil my humor once again?

I love this place... :-) Now if only I can get everyone else to use as many ellipses as I do...

19. Lexie - 09/27/2005 10:51 pm CDT

Hubby and I sleep on the couch too frequently...because we're too lazy to walk upstairs to bed. (But we don't have a TV in the bedroom. Brilliant.)

Damon...I am also guilty of elliptical abuse...and parenthetical abuse.

20. Nathan - 09/30/2005 2:10 am CDT

Yeah, I guess you're right. I didn't want to come across as all naive or snobbish or anything. I suppose the whole two-imperfect-people-rubbing-up-against-each-other-and-infuriating-each-other-sometimes is a bit of marriage (and, indeed, a bit of the *purpose* of marriage) that one tends to want to forget until it happens... =o)

Thanks for all the insight, people. It's always interesting to see how people's marriages work when you're in a position where you might have one at some point but haven't got one yet, y'know?

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