I’m more of an egalitarian.

If it would have been in the best interest of our home for me to work and him to stay at home we would have. I was the best choice not just because of income. What the two of you decided was a good choice for you and I would never think it a sin unless you did to sleep all day while the poor girls learned to raise themselves. You didn’t. I can’t believe that in today’s times that a church would shun a father for this. I would think that they would want to be more of a community for him and use his talents.

I will say this women also get the smack down for being SAHM I have been told by my almost ex on numerous occasions that I didn’t contribute to the house at all in that time. Lest we forget all the dinners, washing, cleaning, kid running and our son’s ACT scores that were high enough in middle school to receive an award and shame several college students.

Jared I think it took a lot to do what the two of you did. A lot of men would think it lesser work and I have no doubt that your wife’s heart broke at times when she left those girls and went to work.

God Bless you and thank you for being open about being a SAHD.

I honestly cannot believe this is a hot topic.

While I admit the SAHD is out of the ordinary, that people call it unbiblical is weird to me. And none of the scripture you quote in your article justifies that opinion at all.

Personally, in my house, I had to be the SAHM as my husband has neither the skills nor the patience (although he's actually better at housework than I am - I REALLY suck at it, I don't think he could keep up the schedule). However, if we'd been in your situation, I have no doubt we'd of made the same choice. I simply didn't want other people to raise my children.

I don't think most people understand the sacrifice it takes to have one parent at home. We've gone without a LOT of material things while year after year we watch our double income friends buy lots of stuff, but our children are well balanced, bright, well-grounded kids and I wouldn't trade that for new carpet any day of the week. (And don't read that to say that double income families can't have children like that as well, I'm just saying I attribute a large majority of the reason my kids are so great to the fact that I stayed home with them.)

All that to say, kudos to you for sacrificing what most men would not.

I'm sure high school reunions are even worse for you than they are for us SAHMs. Loved it when people walked right past me when they found out I didn't do anything "important" enough to warrant further conversation.

You know us SAHPs. Nothing important going on in our lives. We just sit around eating bon-bons.

The thing is unless your bringing in the big bucks you aren't going to get ahead with day care. Having one stay at home parent means that you will do more cooking and such.

I'll be honest, I didn't read your article, but I know your history, Jared.

As the working mother in our family, with my husband as SAHD, I have say No. This is where God has our family right now. We didn't choose this, but our circumstances brought us to it. We trust God for our family - thus far, He seems to want me working and Beau at home. It isn't what either of us desires, we would much prefer to have our roles reversed, but it is what it is. Sinful? I really hope not, since we have prayed and prayed about this for years.